Not that this will make much difference if you are focused on pressing immediate problems, but it's something to think about. And as I have found to be true, to change a habit or complete a difficult task it starts with organizing ones thoughts regarding accomplishing the task. It's the same thing when you try to lose weight or stop smoking. If you don't think about it as a problem, a solution and a successful conclusion will never occur.
Finding meaning to your life is no easy task given outside financial and political influences that demand decisions to just survive, so changing your life style under these circumstances seems nearly impossible, but becoming self-aware is a good place to start.
But even inconsistent thought on a problem, like when a situation presents itself that is relevant to your task, preparing dinner or thoughts about eating when you smell something enticing as you pass the food court in the mall, seeing someone standing out in the cold having cigarette, and you do not succumb to the temptation to eat or smoke, will help to define your problem, no matter what it is, it will begin to subside, slowly. Patience is a virtue.
If your work is your identity and it has forced you to discard your family as an inconvenience, maybe it's time to begin the process of change. What can I do to balance my efforts? What is actually important? Good questions to ask if you want change.
In reality to make changes will take focused 'will power' which is derived from a discipline of self control. Recognizing something as a problem and then taking action to correct it is the very basis for success. Allowing a problem to go unchecked is like the preferable bad apple in the basket, it will, in time, effect all the other apples.
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